I’ve never really been into self-help books. All of those cheesy, usually religious-based, ideals of the books I’d seen before just never seemed like they would actually be any help to me and my life. But one day, while I was taking my weekly stroll through Target [if you know, you know], this tiny yellow book told me I was a badass … and I almost believed it. So, I bought it. Since then, Jen Sincero’s relatable and comical writing style has begun to convince me of my true power as a female badass.
“You are a Badass” isn’t your typical self-help book. Using personal anecdotes and easy-to-follow steps, Sincero makes the harder, bigger obstacles in life seem easy to overcome. One of her main tips to becoming your best self focuses on connecting yourself with the universe. By connecting with the universe, you’re able to clear your mind from the daily nonsense and give it the room it needs to focus on what’s important. Sincero even goes one step further and lays out how she personally connects to the Universe through meditation and explains some ways to ease yourself into meditation if you’ve never tried it before. The fact that she actually goes into detail on not just the “what” but the “how” of changing your life is what really pulled me into this book.
Another huge tip that Sincero focuses on is that you have to “believe before you achieve.” You can’t just sit around and want something and hope it finally comes to you; you have to take the initiative to get it.
“Our thoughts become our words, our words become our beliefs, our beliefs become our actions, our actions become our habits, and our habits become our realities,” she says. It all begins with the simplest thoughts inside your mind. If you don’t truly believe you can do it, then you can’t. You can still be anxious and scared and worried about what’ll happen or what people will think, but if, in your soul, you believe that you can do it, then you will. If you believe that you’re a badass, then you’ll be one.
Every chapter in “You are a Badass” ends with a list of steps on how to do or achieve what that chapter is about, whether it be meditation or money. However, a few chapters in, I noticed that every list ended with the same step: love yourself. In the end, this is really all Sincero is trying to teach us. If you don’t love yourself all the way down to your soul, and aren’t strong enough to admit it to the universe, then you will never be at your most powerful and most capable. If you know that you’re a badass, instead of just telling yourself that you’re one, you will hold yourself to a higher standard and stop doubting your greatness.
“You are a Badass” is such a unique and impactful perspective on how to take a hold on your life and I’m so glad that I pushed past my usual “that won’t help me” attitude toward self-help books. I’m someone that usually lacks confidence in my skills, both social and tactical, and it has caused some missed opportunities for me. Jen Sincero has shown me that it’s not bragging or showing off if you truly believe in yourself and your abilities. If you’re like me and you need a push to change your life for the better or a boost of self confidence, then I highly recommend taking a chance on “You are a Badass,” too.